In Search of Love and the Ideal

A decision in regards to marriage is not something one takes lightly, which means that ultimately it should not be considered from one''s own per­spective. Not only is the choice of an object partner too essential to be left to what one happens to feel for someone walking down the street, the ideal of love cannot be actualized when centered on oneself.

At what point has one fulfilled one''s portion of responsibility and under what circumstances is one justified to end a relationship that was intended to be for eternity? An answer to such an important decision as to the feasibility of one''s marriage needs to be sought beyond the fluctuating part of the mind susceptible to the circumstances.

The image of the ideal is owned by the individual, and realized in the relationship with a partner, in that order. The centrality of truth as the standard upon which to actualize the ideals of love has to be more important than one''s preferences and the marriage itself. When one lacks the desire of being in truth, one will find that one must be lacking in love as well. If a man is to perfect his love for woman, and vice versa, each party needs to transcend the limitations of their pre-held notions.