Protective Parenting - Bringing up Your Children without Clipping Their Wings

Table of Contents Introduction Independent Children Parental Interference Pushing the Right Buttons No Discussions - Just Actions Counterproductive Measures Plenty of Elbow Space Underlying Insecurities Learn to Accept I Want It My Way... Conclusion Author Bio Publisher Introduction Once a person has become a parent, he is overwhelmed with a large number of thoughts. Apart from the euphoria of having a new member added to his family, he is also a little worried about the added responsibility. It is his priority to make sure that the youngster who is wholly dependent on him is cared for, cherished and nurtured in such a manner that no harm can come to him while his parent is around. Apart from caring for her child, a mother's natural instinct is to make sure that she never comes to any harm and is sheltered from all potential possibilities of danger. This is the reason why mankind has managed to survive for millenniums. It is the instinct of the parents to make sure that the next generation of their offspring grow up safely, soundly, and in a healthy manner so that they can continue the race and species. Naturally, this is the reason why parents have been protective about their offspring down the ages. Sometimes they are a bit too overprotective, and this protectiveness takes the form of mollycoddling and over cherishing a child in such a manner that he cannot become an independent adult when he grows up. This child is always going to be looking for someone to make his decisions for him. He is incapable of taking his own initiative. He is also incapable of making decisions on his own, because he is not confident enough in himself and his capacities. He is always looking for approval from his elders, because he is under the impression that everything he does is going to be wrong, unless somebody older than him, tells him that he has done things right. This over protectiveness was all very well, when society had a very rigid demarcation and limit about the roles of the parents and the roles of the children. The Fifth Commandment Says - Honor Your Father and Your Mother. This was a very sensible rule in olden times, when children had to learn everything from their parents. But as time went by, social conventions, moods, and norms began to change, as parenting began to be more of a burden than a duty and responsibility.