The Blessings of Loneliness

Sabrina McDonald's book The Blessings of Loneliness suggests that those who experience loneliness don't need to pursue marriage as the ultimate answer to their hurt, but they need to embrace the blessings that come through the pain. Having dealt with loneliness as a single woman and again as a widow for more than three years, McDonald proposes that loneliness itself is not a blessing, but the fruit that comes through it is. So many Christians forget that God calls His people to the low places. He calls us to be humble and meek. He even calls us to give up everything to follow Christ. None of these come easily, and they often require pain. But we've been promised recognition, grace, inheritance, and everlasting life in return. The same is true for the pain that comes through loneliness. Feelings of rejection and relational hurt force a person to die to his own desires, reach out to others, and find intimacy in Christ, but in return, God has promised a life filled with blessings if we reach within the pain and put our trust in Him. In The Blessings of Loneliness, McDonald encourages singles to see marriage as a calling, not a cure. She also encourages them to see singleness as a calling, and to take advantage of their time in order to reach others with the love of Christ. Throughout the book, McDonald uses her own experience and testimonies of others to prove that loneliness can bring about the abundant life. She uses scripture to back up her words of inspiration and wisdom, and each chapter contains practical steps that lead the lonely single down the path of a deeper relationship with Christ. Many men and women struggling with loneliness have found hope through this message. Here are a few personal testimonies: "You don't know what a blessing this has been. It has been such a message of confirmation and of comfort! Earlier this year, my Dad told me to continue being busy for God. Don't worry about timetables and how things look with regards to not being sent a mate.... Isn't it awesome to realize that God is more than enough for you? I just loved your words and I could write on and on...just wanted you to know that your testimony has blessed me and so many others!""Thank you for this testimony. I am single now after separation from my husband. Reading your story is very comforting to me.""Thank you for that encouraging word. I'm a turning-27-single myself and I could identify with all the struggles you went through. Most of my friends can also relate to your valley experiences as a single. Praise God for the love and assurance of His presence every day. Although loneliness is a physical reality, when a woman chooses to run to the even more real presence of God by faith, she'll learn to embrace the joys and challenges of single-blessedness. I realize I am only beginning this journey of discovering these, and I thank God that he's my guide and fellow sojourner. I hope you'll continue to minister to singles and point them to Jesus!""I just read The Blessings of Loneliness, and I appreciate your sharing such profound words of wisdom. I have been in the season of singleness for what seems like an eternity. While seeking God to satisfy the desire for a mate, I too discovered His love for me, and now I can't stop talking about Him. God bless you in your endeavors." The Blessings of Loneliness is a message of hope and healing for singles in any stage of life. The book is an easy short read with many stories that will draw the interest of a variety of readership. It's guaranteed to inspire anyone who struggles with feeling alone.